So. 6 weeks ago I revealed that I’m worried about Tessa’s development.
As of now she’s nearly 10 and a half months old. And she’s progressed. I don’t mean she’s caught up, but I’m seeing milestones. All of a sudden in the last two weeks she’s decided to make some strides. So she’s still behind, but not so far.
She’s finally swallowing food. She is taking toys and hitting them together. She babbles much more frequently. She looks to me for recognition and acknowledgement. She’s shown legitimate interest in the toy xylophone whereas her usual toy routine is to just pick up whatever she can reach and stare at it. She can for-real crawl, even though she generally chooses not to. Within the last 3 days or so, she started showing interest in things that weren’t on the ground, then started climbing up the low ottoman, then started climbing up me, and yesterday she even pulled up on to Graham’s chair. Yay! As I was writing this post, she pulled up to the coffee table to snag some yogurt melts and narrowly avoided her first head bonk. Double yay!
Two weeks ago I didn’t have nearly so much making me feel better, so it’s nice to get this rush of progress.
I made the mistake the other day of trying to remember what Graham had been doing at 10 months.
That left me kind of floored. It isn’t just that he’s so stinking fast or that he already navigates from standing to sitting so easily. It’s that he’s so engaged. And he’s already responding to a command. He’s so playful and interactive. (In case you’re curious, Graham seemed to go through a regression after that though I didn’t know it at the time. His videos from just a few months later are hugely different.)
And this is Graham at 10 and a half months.
(GAH THOSE CHEEKS.)
Here is some recent video I shot of Tessa with her favorite toy.
It’s kind of impossible not to compare and contrast. Graham has advanced enough skills he can play a game. Tessa just isn’t anywhere close to that level. You’re probably reading this and thinking, “Don’t do it! It’s a trap! You can never win by comparing your children!!”
And you are probably right.
But isn’t also kind of inevitable? Shouldn’t I just get used to it?
As for what I’m going to do about Tessa… since she’s done so well the last couple weeks I’m putting plans to contact Early Intervention on hold for a while. I do plan to email our old worker and ask her what kind of services we’d be looking at if Tessa qualified. I have no idea what they do with babies this little and I could probably do some of it myself.
Once Graham is back in school, we’ll be returning to our baby-playgroup circuit. I think she’ll really be able to enjoy herself now.
And, well, I’m just going to sit back for a while and not worry so much. I will enjoy her fuzzy hair that still sticks up and her killer smile. I will keep just half an eye on her development.
Oh, and babyproofing. I am debating whether to cover the coffee table entirely in bubble wrap or to just get rid of it all together.